Sexton's Corner, Vol. 56:
Ray Sexton:
"A First Class Gentleman - A Tribute to My Dad"
been 89 on August 17th.  With his health deteriorating and doctors telling the
family he simply wasn’t a candidate for any type of surgery…..we all knew
the end of his remarkable journey was fast approaching here on earth, and a
new journey was going to begin in heaven.  Losing one’s parents is one of
life’s toughest moments, but it is a hurdle we all have to face.  I want to share
a few thoughts about my Dad, who was one of the most amazing men who
ever graced the planet!  He was a first class gentleman in every way, who
literally chose a career that brought joy and happiness to thousands of
couples in many towns in and around Indianapolis, Indiana.  He taught
ballroom dancing like no one ever had before or since in large classes with
up to 50 couples in each class six to seven nights per week for almost 40
years!  On Aug 1st at the funeral services held in Las Vegas for family and
close friends each of his kids participated in the eulogy.  My brother Mike
said, “To say our Dad was just a dance teacher is like saying Babe Ruth was
just a baseball player, or Tiger Woods was just a golfer.  Our Dad was
simply the best at what he did…….a pioneer, like an astronaut reaching out
to a world no one had ever entered yet!”  Dad is a legend back in Indiana for
his unique and extraordinary ballroom class lessons he taught.  No one else
ever did it before or after him at the level of excellence our Dad did!
Dad was in the army during WWII, and was stationed in England.  He had been teaching at Arthur Murrays in Indianapolis before joining the army,
so they occasionally had Dad teach dancing to the GI’s for recreation as periodically a truckload of English ladies arrived at the base.  It was in
England where he learned International ballroom dancing on week-end leaves.  In fact, he became the first American to be certified in the Bronze
Standard from overseas, which made the front page news in London. Dad during the week worked as a Morse code expert on the radio, helping our
planes land with no lights after returning from bombing missions during the war.  When he returned home he knew what he wanted to do for a
living…..teach dancing.  He continued at Arthur Murrays in Indianapolis, and later managed there, as well as Dayton, and Cincinnati, Ohio
simultaneously.  From there in the early fifties he was asked to go to Santa Monica, California to manage Arthur Murrays.
Driving once through Las Vegas Dad was one of the fortunate ones who witnessed one of poker’s most legendary heads-up matches on the side
walk outside of Binions Horseshoe:  Johnny Moss verses Nick the Greek.  Millions passed back and forth and the match lasted 6 months.  Finally at
the end, Nick the Greek lost and stood up and said, “Mr. Moss, I’m going to have to let you go.”  Little did our Dad know then, that he would return
to live out his retirement in the town he loved…..Las Vegas his last 18 years, starting around 1990.
Once Dad moved out to Las Vegas to live out his later years, he loved to play poker.  What a positive impression he left on the players, dealers, and
poker room managers!  He was the most polite, well behaved player any of them had ever seen.  The impact he left due to his congenial personality
was amazing!  Almost every week I run into someone who always asks about Dad and how he is doing these days.  The first 10 seconds any one
ever met him………..they just liked him.  He always had a gift that so many are not blessed with.  His class, eloquence, and style with that
contagious laugh of his made him one of their favorites.  He was simply class from A to Z!  I’ve had many dealers and poker room managers who
remembered Dad say, “Your Dad was the nicest man in the world…….What a dream job we would all have if all the customers were like your
Dad.”  I’ve always been so proud of my Dad, just as my brothers and sister have our whole lives!
What many of the poker players didn’t know about Dad was what a legend he was back in Indiana where he taught his ballroom class lessons!
If his funeral was held 20 years earlier in his prime there would have been more people paying their respects than you might see for The President of
the United States.  The difference he made for all of those couple’s lives through dancing is hard to measure.  When couples learn how to dance
together their entire lives are richly enhanced.  Very few people are fortunate to have a job their whole life that accomplishes this for others!  Dad
was such an exceptional human being and an example for all of us to follow.  How to treat other people is such an important lesson in life, and we
were fortunate to have the best teacher of all!
Dad wasn’t comfortable with the cost of dance lessons in the studios, as he had a dream to do what no one has ever done before:  Start class
lessons and only charge $40 for an 8 week course.  Can you imagine how lucky these couples were to take ballroom lessons from the Master of
Masters, meeting once per week for a two hour lesson over 8 weeks?  That is only $5 per week for each couple!  The social friends that were made
and the dances they would go to, with Dad offering them Course 1 through 8 with a fun variety of new steps, helping them become excellent dancers
along the way was the gift Dad gave them all.
Dad was famous in Indiana for holding some of the biggest and most
successful big dances for his students.  After all, he taught all over:  
Bloomington, Columbus, Muncie, Shelbyville, Franklin, Seymour,
Indianapolis, Brownstown, and South Bend.  He also taught in many
Junior High Schools, High Schools and Colleges like Notre Dame, St.
Mary’s of the Woods, Valparaiso University, Ball State, and of course
Indiana University.  The most famous and biggest ballroom in Indiana was
and still is The Indiana Roof in downtown Indianapolis.  Dad’s dances
were so popular he would draw reservations from 27 – 30 States and 4
-6 Countries, combined with so many of his happy couples from nearby
towns that took his lessons.  Dad’s dances were legendary at the Indiana
Roof, as the details of the orchestra and music selection was always
overseen by Dad.  He knew what everyone wanted.  It was like when he
taught his class lessons…….He would tell the students ahead of time, as
they listened with the guys on one side of the room and the ladies on the
other… is where you are going to make your mistake, so let’s try it
now with partners.  Sure enough at that precise moment of the step, where
the students would inevitably get lost, Dad would laugh and stop the
music, as everyone would laugh with him.  Then he would break it down
and the students would start to really learn it.
My Dad had brought Jim Banta into Arthur Murray’s many years ago, who became President of Arthur Murray’s.  Jim brought in George Theiss,
who is President today.  Jim and Dad were very good friends and worked together in the beginning.  Jim couldn’t understand why so many students
would come to the office to trade in their private lessons purchased for any of the class lessons taught by Ray Sexton.  This was unheard of, but it
was the beginning of what would be Dad’s calling in life.  When Jim Banta was President of Arthur Murray’s he would sometimes fly down to a
town where Dad was teaching to watch the Master at work.  He would take tedious notes on every word and move Dad made, trying to figure out
why he was the best class ballroom teacher they had ever seen!  What was his secret?  How did he do it?
One of Dad’s favorite things at his big dances he held, whether it was at
the Indiana Roof, Bloomington, or that famous resort, French Lick, where
Larry Bird was from………was to have his own kids entertain his
students at intermission at the dance.  I am Dad’s oldest son, born in
1946, while Mike followed one year and twelve days later in 1947.  We
were two baby boomers for sure, and by 1960 we were the first to do
dance shows at a few of Dad’s dances.  After high school in 1965, Mike
went to Ohio State on a gymnastics scholarship, while I went to the
University of Oklahoma on one as well.  As time went by, Dad would
have us do a few shows in the 70’s and early eighties, when we all got
together.  As our sister Stephanie and youngest brother Lance grew up,
they quickly became the stars of the show for Dad’s dances, and how he
enjoyed those evenings.  I can still see the smile on his face, as though it
were yesterday.  Mike and I could dance a little bit, but Stephanie and
Lance are two of the best dancers you’ll ever see in the world!  Both have
been professional dancers their whole lives.  Stephanie won on that
popular TV show Dance Fever in the eighties and is the only one in the
family to dance in the World Ballroom Championships in England.  Today
she is teaching dancing in Florida, and dancing is and always will be her
whole world.  If you have ever seen Mike and I dance with Steph, we just
hold on to her for dear life……she is amazing!  Lance has competed all
over the United States and has won too many awards to mention here.  
Today he owns a beautiful and very successful dance studio in Melbourne,
Florida and has nine teachers who work for him.  
I recall going back in time to 1982, remembering how our family met
for a re-union at Bloomington, Indiana to enjoy one of Dad’s popular
dances.  Lance and his professional partner simply put on a spectacular
8 dance professional show that brought the house down!  Believe me;
no one would ever want to have to follow that act!  Mike and I were
happy to watch our little brother do his thing as we enjoyed several
pretty strong drinks during the show during his performance.  After
Lance was done with his show, Dad said, “I know there are a lot of
students here tonight who remember my two oldest boys Tom and
Mike, who used to perform for you.  What do you say we bring them
out here impromptu to do a few dances for you for old time’s sake with
their sister Stephanie……?  Would you like that?”  Of course the
audience loved all of this, as we more or less got drafted to follow
Lance’s performance.  Mike did four dances and I did four dances as
Dad would have us alternate each dance he asked us to do.  For some
reason when I was doing the cha cha with Steph, I tried to recapture
my youth and do a flip in open position, like I used to be able to do in
my younger days.  Instead, I fell right on my gluteus maximus!  It was
so hilarious and as I quickly got up to continue the dance, I glanced
over at Dad who laughed  so hard, while he slapped his knee and
shook his head, watching us recover, breaking right on the two beat as
though nothing had happened!
In Dad’s life he found three wonderful ladies, who at different stages in his life, found himself married to each one.  Around 1945, upon returning to
Arthur Murray’s after WWII in Indianapolis he met Gloria.  She was the best teacher and dancer at the studio, and Dad was the best male dancer
and teacher.  They fell in love and within two weeks got married.  She was my mother and Mike’s and was stunningly beautiful.  By the early fifties
they divorced and Mike and I were raised in Dayton, Ohio by Mom.  We loved her very much, but always looked forward to taking the train over
to Indianapolis to visit Dad and his family with his other four children.  As Mike and I got older we would drive over to see Dad and tumble and
play with the kids all week-end.  Unfortunately our Mom passed away 20 years ago.
In the early fifties Dad met a beautiful lady on the outside and inside named Beverly, who was
the mother of Dad’s other four children, Jeff, Stephanie, Rod, and Lance.  She was a loving
good Mom who did a wonderful job raising the children.  She also did many dancing exhibitions
with Dad and helped him with his classes for several years.  After the kids grew up Dad and Bev
separated and divorced.  Today she lives in Melbourne, Florida where Lance and Steph live.  
Bev has a lot of class and all of us love her very much.  She has travelled to Las Vegas for many
family reunions, and has always been friends with Dad’s third wife, Sandy.
It was 27 years ago when Dad met Sandy, and Dad was about 62, still going strong teaching his
classes.  It isn’t often between the ages of 62 and 89 your Dad finds true love to complete a
happy personal life………………..Dad was lucky to find Sandy.  It was around 1989 when
Dad slipped on some ice back in Indianapolis off the porch and cracked the back of his head
severely.  Without brain surgery to relieve the pressure he would have died then.  It was this
accident that caused Dad to retire from teaching any more dance classes.  In 1990, they moved
out to Las Vegas so Dad could enjoy these past 18 years in retirement.  The first fourteen years
Dad loved playing cards and dancing with Sandy all over town.  They got to see all the Vegas
shows together, and it was always easy to see how much they cared for each other every day.   
Dad’s last four years between 84 and 88 were more difficult as his health began to change.  It
wasn’t easy to go out to play poker, as his hearing, sight and legs were losing a step or two.
He stayed home a lot, and watched some TV the best he could in his wheel chair.  His favorite
show of course was the World Poker Tour, where Mike has become a true celebrity as an
announcer with Vince Van Patton, now in their 7th season!  Dad was always Mike’s number
one fan when he competed in the World Series of Poker or anywhere else.  Later with health
problems he would have to root for him at home.  Mike deserves a lot of credit, as he told Dad
to retire, stop working, and come to Vegas to enjoy his retirement.  From 1990 right up to
2008 Mike made it possible for this to happen, and our whole family is so grateful for what he
did for Dad!  Thanks Mike.
I believe the true test of love comes when one is losing their health and the other half is there for
them every step of the way.  Our Dad was lucky to have a wonderful woman in Sandy who
was there for Dad right up to the end.  She richly enhanced our Dad’s life, and I strongly
Hi Tom,
I just wanted to tell you again how sorry I am that Ray is no longer with us. A small remembrance of your Dad
Sandy and I had gone out to dinner and then a show at the Orleans a few months ago.  I dropped her off and then drove away, and
before I got to the gate she called and asked if I could come back.  I thought something was wrong and she said no.  Ray shaved and
dressed up hoping you would step in for a visit.  You know, I turned around and spent almost two hours chatting with him and Sandy.  
He was always so sweet to me and I’ll always appreciate his genuine love for me.  I felt it a privilege to be able to call him Dad.
The Cab Is Parked,
Tom Sexton

(Note:   A small service was held in Las Vegas at the Palms Mortuary on Jones on Aug 1st that remembered and paid tribute to Dad
by family and close friends.  On Thusday, Aug 7th, there will be a viewing for Dad, followed the next day on Friday, Aug. 8th for a
funeral service in Indianapolis, Indiana.  Dad is coming home.  His wishes were to be buried in Indiana at the Elizabeth Town
Cemetery a few miles north of Muncie.  Both the viewing and service will be held at Flanner and Buchanan Mortuary. The viewing
Thursday will be between 5:00 PM - 7:00 PM.  The funeral service on Friday will be at 1:00 PM. at Broadripple Rd.)
ometimes in life something happens that stops your world right in its
tracks….to a screeching halt!  This past week my Dad, Ray Sexton,
passed away.  He had a wonderful life at the age of 88, soon to have
Ray Sexton was so proud of his six children.  Standing behind their
Dad from LT to RT is Mike, Tom, Lance, Stephanie, Rod, and Jeff.  
This photo was taken last year at a family reunion in Las Vegas over
at Mike's house.  Having all the children around made Dad so happy.
(Left to Right) Dad first got married to Gloria in 1945, and they had two
children: Tom and Mike.  In the early 50's Dad remarried to another
wonderful lady, Beverly, who had four children: Jeff, Stephanie, Rod, and
Lance.  Here Dad and Bev are demonstrating a dance step at one of their
dance classes.  After a divorce years later, Dad met Sandy Darnell.  They
were a true love story for 27 years, right up to the end of Dad's journey on
earth, and his beginning in heaven.  Dad passed away July 31, 2008
This picture was taken around 1982 at Bloomington, Indiana at one
of Dad's dances.  Stephanie in her mermaid dress is lifted up by all
five of her brothers.  It looks like Mike is holding up the most
weight, as he lost two inches in height!  Dad loved it when his kids
danced for his students.  This was the night Tom and Steph did their
memorable cha cha, with the flip.  Read more on this further down.
He made it so much fun for all of them!  Another genius technique Dad insisted on was rotating the guys up and down the line when the music
stopped to get another partner to lead.  It not only improved the guy’s lead, but the ladies ability to follow the steps.  Just as importantly, it allowed
the lesson to be a fun social happening at the same time……not just a dance lesson.
Above at one of Dad's dances, pictured LT to RT is Rod, Mike, Steph,
Dad, Bev, Tom, and Lance.  Looking back, it is easy to see why every
one had such a big smile on their face.....Dad's dances were always
fun!  We all loved it when Dad danced an impromtu dance himself,
with all of his stops and hesitations.  He was always Mr. Silk on any
dance floor.
Dad had a total of six children and was always so proud of each one and their many accomplishments.  Rod and Jeff both graduated from the
University of Indiana.  Rod majored in business and has been very successful in the furniture business his whole life.  Today he lives in Sacramento,
California.  Jeff went to Indiana on a full classical piano scholarship, and has travelled the world as political envoy for the State Department his whole
career.  In fact, he was at the Pentagon on the other side of the building when that plane crashed into it from 911!
Above Mike and Steph are doing a wild swing in the Champion's Lounge
at the Tournament Of Champions in 1999 at the Orleans in Las Vegas.  
In the background is Dad and Sandy in contrast doing a smooth swing.  
Mike created the TOC poker extravaganza, and it launched his career
into becoming a TV star as commentator for the World Poker Tour.  
Dad's influence on the whole familys dancing will never be forgotten!
Dad always had a soothing answer that seem to fit in any situation, as he came over after my memorable exhibition that night and said, “Well Tom,
for heaven’s sake.”  At many of our family reunions, Dad loved to show this film from the past, and I can hear him laugh now as I’m writing this.
This photo was taken at the Bellagio on the
first day Mike did the commentary on the
WPT.  How Dad enjoyed this day, as we got him
a ringside seat to poker history behind the
curtain on the stage.  Dad knew that day what
all of this would mean for Mike.  He was right!
believe without her, Dad wouldn’t have had nearly the fulfilling life he did in his twilight years.  Words will never be able to thank you enough
Sandy.  Those last 4 years Dad had another angel by his side to help him get through things day to day.  Her name was Maria Gemma Flor
Manansala, who was Dad’s home care provider.  We affectionately called her Gemma.  She has a beautiful 18 year old daughter ready to go to
college and an 11 year old boy, named Brian Christopher.  Her husband Cesar is lucky to have such a caring and wonderful wife.  Our entire
family can only say thank you for the help you gave Dad those last four years of his life!

My ex-wife Janis came to my Dad’s funeral services to pay her respects, which meant so much to me.  She loved my Dad and he loved her.
The day after the service I got an email from her I wanted to share part of with you:
Dad and Sandy look so happy dancing the night away at the TOC in
1999.  They enjoyed a true love affair for 27 years.  Thanks Sandy
for being there for Dad and making his last years so special.
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Eight gymnastic's champion in history at the University of Oklahoma.  He went on to teach High School and coached the gymnastic's team to
several State Championships.  His brother, Mike Sexton, found TV fame as host for the
World Poker Tour, now entering it's seventh remarkable
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